This past week, I had a chance to change my state. I ran a few errands, and at each place I went, the employees and cashiers at the stores were curt and cold. I didn't think too much of it until I called a family member with a question. He was in a really bad mood and really rude to me. I thought to myself, "What is up with this? Why are all these people in such raunchy moods?" I felt my energy drain and mood drastically change. As I sat in the car, a thought came into my head, saying, "Victorie, just because these people are in a bad state does not mean that you should let them affect yours." Immediately I felt the dark cloud lift and I was empowered! And interestingly enough, as my state changed, I also found myself feeling empathy towards the people I had interacted with. "I bet they've had a really bad day"..."I wonder if he was up all night"..."Maybe her boss yelled at her today"...were the type of thoughts running through my head. What was so amazing about this experience was to see how easily my state was affected by the states of those I interacted with, and how quickly I was able to change it back to being empowered just by saying I could!
I had an amazing experience! About 5 months ago I met this boy named Aaron in one of my classes that I'm taking at a nearby Community College. When the semester started I didn't know him at all but then it wasn't until November that we really started talking and became friends. He had a girlfriend at the time and they were going through some tough things at that point and he would tell me the problems and ask me for advice and I'd tell him what I thought was best to do. This went on for about a month and then they broke up for just about the hundredth time but this time was the longest they'd been away from each other. During that time Aaron and I became closer and we talked more in class, on the phone, we'd go play the piano and the organ and do a lot of things together. He took me on a few dates and I was thinking this might go somewhere but then about 2 months ago he told me that he got back with his girlfriend and then the very next day he stopped talking to me completely! I saw him every single day in class but he wouldn't make eye contact with me, he wouldn't speak to me and one of the other guys in class, Pablo, asked what happened between us. Even the teacher was curious and asked what happened before I took my midterm! When I saw he wasn't talking to me at all I sent him a message and told him I liked him and how could he do this to me?
It wasn't until the second training I went to that a thought came to me to write him a note. On the note, I wrote "You are a wonderful person. Don't ever forget that!" I put it on his car (because that was the only way I could contact him) on Thursday before I left for the third training and I wasn't able to see if it would do anything until the following Tuesday. Well when I was walking to class I saw his car parked there and thought nothing of it. It wasn't until I got closer and saw that he was in it did I think something was up. Class had already started and Aaron was NEVER late to class! So I kept walking to class and sat in my usual spot next to Pablo and then a few minutes later Aaron walked in and sat behind us which was very odd as well. Class went on as usual and afterward I gathered my things and headed out of the classroom but I noticed that I was being followed by Aaron. I kept walking, though, not wanting to speak to him. It wasn't long before he pulled on my backpack and asked if I put the note on his car and I replied, quite coldly, with "Yeah." He then told me to look at him and when I did the tears came and they didn't stop for a while. He made a long, but sweet, apology about what he did and how it wasn't right and that he was in a hard situation.
We talked, again, after two months! I am so happy that I got my friend back and I can only imagie what would've happened or what would've not happened if I hadn't followed that Say Go Be Do!
Driving to a different city for a piano lesson and backpacking prep, I was really tired from a busy week. Upon arriving, I wanted to go complete some work at the library and prepare for my lesson. Instead, I had a feeling I should go to the next exit. I got off the next exit, and then felt I should go to my old school. I walked in, and immediately found one of my dearest friends who I had not seen in months, and who now lives nearly 10 hours away. I had no idea she would be there, and she had not thought to call me because she thought I was still in another city 3 hours away.
The story doesn't end there. Together, we went to an old favorite spot of ours up a nearby canyon. We caught up on what we are doing with our lives and the lessons we are learning. As we were talking, another old friend appeared, who I had not seen in years. He had with him a friend from Bolivia and a friend from Germany who both happen to be living in my new home town. There was an instant connection, and I now have a fabulous new friends from two continents. There is no way I would have met them had I not followed that initial impression to get off a different exit.
This past week, I had a chance to change my state. I ran a few errands, and at each place I went, the employees and cashiers at the stores were curt and cold. I didn't think too much of it until I called a family member with a question. He was in a really bad mood and really rude to me. I thought to myself, "What is up with this? Why are all these people in such raunchy moods?" I felt my energy drain and mood drastically change. As I sat in the car, a thought came into my head, saying, "Victorie, just because these people are in a bad state does not mean that you should let them affect yours." Immediately I felt the dark cloud lift and I was empowered! And interestingly enough, as my state changed, I also found myself feeling empathy towards the people I had interacted with. "I bet they've had a really bad day"..."I wonder if he was up all night"..."Maybe her boss yelled at her today"...were the type of thoughts running through my head.
ReplyDeleteWhat was so amazing about this experience was to see how easily my state was affected by the states of those I interacted with, and how quickly I was able to change it back to being empowered just by saying I could!
I had an amazing experience! About 5 months ago I met this boy named Aaron in one of my classes that I'm taking at a nearby Community College. When the semester started I didn't know him at all but then it wasn't until November that we really started talking and became friends. He had a girlfriend at the time and they were going through some tough things at that point and he would tell me the problems and ask me for advice and I'd tell him what I thought was best to do. This went on for about a month and then they broke up for just about the hundredth time but this time was the longest they'd been away from each other. During that time Aaron and I became closer and we talked more in class, on the phone, we'd go play the piano and the organ and do a lot of things together. He took me on a few dates and I was thinking this might go somewhere but then about 2 months ago he told me that he got back with his girlfriend and then the very next day he stopped talking to me completely! I saw him every single day in class but he wouldn't make eye contact with me, he wouldn't speak to me and one of the other guys in class, Pablo, asked what happened between us. Even the teacher was curious and asked what happened before I took my midterm! When I saw he wasn't talking to me at all I sent him a message and told him I liked him and how could he do this to me?
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't until the second training I went to that a thought came to me to write him a note. On the note, I wrote "You are a wonderful person. Don't ever forget that!" I put it on his car (because that was the only way I could contact him) on Thursday before I left for the third training and I wasn't able to see if it would do anything until the following Tuesday. Well when I was walking to class I saw his car parked there and thought nothing of it. It wasn't until I got closer and saw that he was in it did I think something was up. Class had already started and Aaron was NEVER late to class! So I kept walking to class and sat in my usual spot next to Pablo and then a few minutes later Aaron walked in and sat behind us which was very odd as well. Class went on as usual and afterward I gathered my things and headed out of the classroom but I noticed that I was being followed by Aaron. I kept walking, though, not wanting to speak to him. It wasn't long before he pulled on my backpack and asked if I put the note on his car and I replied, quite coldly, with "Yeah." He then told me to look at him and when I did the tears came and they didn't stop for a while. He made a long, but sweet, apology about what he did and how it wasn't right and that he was in a hard situation.
We talked, again, after two months! I am so happy that I got my friend back and I can only imagie what would've happened or what would've not happened if I hadn't followed that Say Go Be Do!
Powerful say go be do this weekend!
ReplyDeleteDriving to a different city for a piano lesson and backpacking prep, I was really tired from a busy week. Upon arriving, I wanted to go complete some work at the library and prepare for my lesson. Instead, I had a feeling I should go to the next exit. I got off the next exit, and then felt I should go to my old school. I walked in, and immediately found one of my dearest friends who I had not seen in months, and who now lives nearly 10 hours away. I had no idea she would be there, and she had not thought to call me because she thought I was still in another city 3 hours away.
The story doesn't end there. Together, we went to an old favorite spot of ours up a nearby canyon. We caught up on what we are doing with our lives and the lessons we are learning. As we were talking, another old friend appeared, who I had not seen in years. He had with him a friend from Bolivia and a friend from Germany who both happen to be living in my new home town. There was an instant connection, and I now have a fabulous new friends from two continents. There is no way I would have met them had I not followed that initial impression to get off a different exit.